Why Setting Boundaries is Good Self Care

“Boundaries” has been a buzz word for quite a while now. Everyone knows generally what they are (maybe) and that they are typically a good thing. I think where it starts to get a little fuzzy is not having a concrete image in our minds of what boundaries...

How to Build Courage and Self Esteem

Courage and Self Esteem – everyone always wants more of them! “What is the quickest way to build courage and self esteem?” was a question I got from Chris Burns during the interview I did (icymi Click HERE and scroll to the 3 hour mark). This is such...

Real Life Example of Setting Boundaries

A good friend came to me with a question… Here’s a REAL LIFE STORY about setting and enforcing boundaries and sticking up for those you love from someone close to me (I got his permission to share!). *Long story, but HUGE message you’ll want to hear*...

How to Handle Family (Especially During the Holidays)

The holidays have come and passed and I hope you felt calm, prepared, and at peace about seeing your family and friends. If the holidays were a source of stress and angst for your this year, here are a few others tips I was thinking about that I’d love to share...

How Assertiveness Can Ward Off Attacks

And men with red flags too… Confidence and assertiveness are crucial to your personal safety. You probably know what confidence is and may have an idea of what assertiveness is in your head, but you may not be sure how it relates to personal safety. First, here is how...

Brene Brown, Vulnerability, and Assertiveness

I am seeing Brene Brown speak today!!! Holy moly! I am so excited! Her work is amazing and she talks a lot about vulnerability and wholeheartedness. If you’ve been following me for a few months or so you would have seen I have a necklace that reads...

Can you be Kind AND Assertive?

YES! I’ve noticed something interesting over the last few months… that society commonly thinks that “assertive” means “aggressive” which is simply not true and is not how I encourage woman to behave at all! Assertive women are NOT...

Am I Being Passive Aggressive?

Here are some concrete examples! Do you ever catch yourself being passive aggressive?? I do! Haha! I wasn’t always an assertive woman and some old patterns, behaviors, and tendencies still shine through sometimes. Nowadays, I notice it, acknowledge it, and try to...

This is My Biggest Heartbreak

Time to get vulnerable… “The hardest part about walking away from someone is the part where you realize that no matter how slowly you go, they will never run after you.” There it is. That’s it. That’s my biggest heartbreak. Can you relate...

Guilt, Your Worth, and Assertiveness

I’ve been meaning to write a little more about guilt versus shame (unworthiness). There is such a huuuge difference! And it’s really important to know what that difference is because both guilt and shame manifest so differently in our lives! If you’ve been following...

Someone Toxic Getting You Down?

Feeling drained, used, or underappreciated? If you’re feeling this way right now, don’t fret! We can (and will) change that! Who is getting you down? A family member? A friend? Someone you’re dating? Are you typically attracted to those kinds of people in general or...

How to Set Assertive Boundaries

This is crucial. A significant question came up today during a Live chat regarding personal boundaries that made me realize there is a serious need out there with people needing help on knowing what a boundary is and how to set one. A workbook to help with this is in...

Your Childhood is Your Template for How You Do Relationships

Unfortunately or fortunately… Your childhood is the template for how you start out in life. There’s simply no way around it… BUT! That does not mean you have to stay stuck in the messages you received in childhood! What was your childhood like? Did you generally feel...

When Assertiveness is Appropriate

“And how do I use it?” “In fact, *when* do I use it?” “How do I know when is an appropriate time?” “Is there such a thing as “normal” assertiveness?” These are some of the questions I get asked a lot, which I totally 100% get because I once struggled with this too!...

Why I’d Rather be Selfish, Not Selfless

Which one are you? In general, we probably all agree it’s better to be selfLESS. Altruistic. Generous. Charitable. But is it really? According to the online thesaurus, “loving” is a synonym for “selfless.” Loving to whom? If you’re truly selfless, you generally think...

Why I Created The Assertive Woman

“You’re a rocket scientist!?” Yep, I have a degree in Aerospace Engineering. I graduated 7 years ago and can honestly tell you, analyzing metal airframe parts for when they’ll begin to crack is not all that exciting! Shocking, I know! Anyway, why am I writing this? I...

Being Family is Determined More by Behavior Than Blood

Someone asked me yesterday if I see my dad much anymore. “No.” as I shook my head. “Oh you’ve just given up” she responded. My tendency of not thinking quickly on my feet and saying how I really feel led me to say “yeah I guess so…” But no, I don’t believe with any...

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