“Boundaries” has been a buzz word for quite a while now. Everyone knows generally what they are (maybe) and that they are typically a good thing. I think where it starts to get a little fuzzy is not having a concrete image in our minds of what boundaries...
Courage and Self Esteem – everyone always wants more of them! “What is the quickest way to build courage and self esteem?” was a question I got from Chris Burns during the interview I did (icymi Click HERE and scroll to the 3 hour mark). This is such...
The holidays have come and passed and I hope you felt calm, prepared, and at peace about seeing your family and friends. If the holidays were a source of stress and angst for your this year, here are a few others tips I was thinking about that I’d love to share...
And men with red flags too… Confidence and assertiveness are crucial to your personal safety. You probably know what confidence is and may have an idea of what assertiveness is in your head, but you may not be sure how it relates to personal safety. First, here is how...
I am seeing Brene Brown speak today!!! Holy moly! I am so excited! Her work is amazing and she talks a lot about vulnerability and wholeheartedness. If you’ve been following me for a few months or so you would have seen I have a necklace that reads...
YES! I’ve noticed something interesting over the last few months… that society commonly thinks that “assertive” means “aggressive” which is simply not true and is not how I encourage woman to behave at all! Assertive women are NOT...
Here are some concrete examples! Do you ever catch yourself being passive aggressive?? I do! Haha! I wasn’t always an assertive woman and some old patterns, behaviors, and tendencies still shine through sometimes. Nowadays, I notice it, acknowledge it, and try to...
Time to get vulnerable… “The hardest part about walking away from someone is the part where you realize that no matter how slowly you go, they will never run after you.” There it is. That’s it. That’s my biggest heartbreak. Can you relate...
I’ve been meaning to write a little more about guilt versus shame (unworthiness). There is such a huuuge difference! And it’s really important to know what that difference is because both guilt and shame manifest so differently in our lives! If you’ve been following...
Feeling drained, used, or underappreciated? If you’re feeling this way right now, don’t fret! We can (and will) change that! Who is getting you down? A family member? A friend? Someone you’re dating? Are you typically attracted to those kinds of people in general or...
How does being vulnerable make you feel? So over the weekend, I did something I’ve never done before. I made a bloopers video. I am an only child, introvert; I hate public speaking; I hate being in the spotlight; I am a recovering people-pleaser and perfectionist; I...
This is crucial. A significant question came up today during a Live chat regarding personal boundaries that made me realize there is a serious need out there with people needing help on knowing what a boundary is and how to set one. A workbook to help with this is in...
Unfortunately or fortunately… Your childhood is the template for how you start out in life. There’s simply no way around it… BUT! That does not mean you have to stay stuck in the messages you received in childhood! What was your childhood like? Did you generally feel...
“And how do I use it?” “In fact, *when* do I use it?” “How do I know when is an appropriate time?” “Is there such a thing as “normal” assertiveness?” These are some of the questions I get asked a lot, which I totally 100% get because I once struggled with this too!...
Which one are you? In general, we probably all agree it’s better to be selfLESS. Altruistic. Generous. Charitable. But is it really? According to the online thesaurus, “loving” is a synonym for “selfless.” Loving to whom? If you’re truly selfless, you generally think...
“You’re a rocket scientist!?” Yep, I have a degree in Aerospace Engineering. I graduated 7 years ago and can honestly tell you, analyzing metal airframe parts for when they’ll begin to crack is not all that exciting! Shocking, I know! Anyway, why am I writing this? I...
Someone asked me yesterday if I see my dad much anymore. “No.” as I shook my head. “Oh you’ve just given up” she responded. My tendency of not thinking quickly on my feet and saying how I really feel led me to say “yeah I guess so…” But no, I don’t believe with any...
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